Ancient Secrets for Modern Passion by guest blogger, Christine Wines
I am a Tantrika, but am also a Swinger. I began having adventures in the Lifestyle (the term Swingers refer to “swinging”) shortly before I started exploring Tantra. Tantra appealed to me because of its spiritual aspect and the relevance of its precepts to everyday life. So I started reducing my participation in Lifestyle parties because the emphasis there was simply on sex — how many partners, how often, how much you could get at a given time. Now, there is nothing wrong with that — don’t misunderstand me! Sometimes having a great uncommitted sexual encounter with someone (whether a friend or a stranger) can be very liberating, fulfilling, and just plain fun! So I have continued to attend Lifestyle events from time to time, and count many of its members as good friends — both in and out of the bedroom.
So when I was invited to be a guest speaker on a Swinger Houseboat party, I jumped at the opportunity. All my Lifestyle friends know the basics about Tantra from me — I have tried in vain to get some of them to attend pujas and lectures with me. But the organizer of the boat party was interested in bringing some intellectual “class” to the event with my presentation. He advised me not to call it a Tantra Puja, so as not to scare people off. So my 60-minute interactive workshop was called “Ancient Secrets for Modern Passion”. I had about 20 participants come with varying degrees of interest. One questioned whether this was going to be “religious”, another wanted me to demonstrate how men could master their ejaculation! (I told him that was another workshop for another time!)
All in all, however, everyone participated with enthusiasm. I started with a very basic background of Tantra, Taoism, and other ancient traditions that believe a healthy sexuality is part and parcel of life — not something to be shunned, or brought out only for procreation. Then I invited the couples to imagine their entire bodies were one big sexual organ. During the exercises, nobody was to touch any genitalia whatsoever, but to feel that the part of the body being touched or the sense being activated was an erogenous zone or an actual part of the yoni or lingam. (One couple kept pushing the boundaries, I had to keep reminding them, “NO GENITAL CONTACT”. They were acutely disappointed!)
Each partner took turns being blindfolded while their mates touched them on the arms, legs, or back with a variety of massage tools, feathers, beads, furry gloves, etc. After the touching exercise, the man lovingly fed his woman a banana, and she then fed him a strawberry, each savoring the taste, the feel of the fruit, the scent, etc., not just gulping it down. Guess what they were supposed to imagine the fruit was! Then I passed out a special aphrodisiacal massage oil I blended myself and had them rub a drop or two on a soft spot such as the wrist, inner elbow, behind the ear, the neck, etc. Their mates were to gently sniff and revel in the scent, imagining it to be the scent of their mates’ organ. One man — who had become very aroused during the exercises — reported that he CLIMAXED (without any genital contact!) when he smelled the oil! WOW! Maybe I should bottle this stuff and sell it for the big bucks!
After the puja-that-wasn’t-a-puja, many of the participants told me how much they enjoyed their mini trip into the world of the Kama Sutra. Several want to be invited for the next puja I offer. So I felt pleased that I had at least introduced a tantric experience to this group of people who collect notches on their belts. (One topic for discussion among some of the women on my boat was what was the largest number of men they had f–ked at a single event! One woman’s answer was 40-something, and I was astounded.) But mindful, conscious love-making seems to be a hard-sell for this group. After my workshop, people were back to bumping & grinding and humping madly all over the boats. Business as usual. But a good time was had by all!..
Christine Wines is an incredible woman! When I asked her to explain her professional path and her motivation for her life’s work, this is how she responded:
“1) I am a Holistic Health Practitioner offering various modalities of massage and energy healing. In addition my practice includes spiritual counseling as an ordained minister and sexual healing as a dakini.
2) My motivation for all of the above is that it makes my heart sing and my soul dance and is why I came here to this lifetime.”
I want to express my sincere gratitude to Christine for blessing us with her presence!
From my heart to yours, Joy
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